“Am I normal?”
As a therapist who specializes in sexuality, this is one of the most common questions I hear from my clients. What I tell them is that if you have experienced some form of sexual dysfunction, been divorced, had infidelity in your relationship, lacked intimacy with your partner, had little to no sex education, then congratulations, you are normal! In our society we grow up with a culture that is obsessed with sex yet is one of the most sex negative cultures on the planet. It is no wonder that most of us struggle with a part of our life that we are taught to believe “should” come naturally, yet without the proper tools is nearly impossible.
“Is this really all there is?”
I often work with people who have done what everyone around them have told them is “right” and yet they find themselves in stagnant relationships and wonder if there is more. Our society has an epidemic of relationships that lack the physical and emotional intimacy that people need and crave. Does any of this sound familiar?
Do you and your partner rarely have sex or find you have drastically different libidos?
Do you rarely engage in non-sexual touch (holding hands, cuddling, hugging)?
Do you feel your partner would rather binge watch TV, spend hours engaged with Facebook, rather than have a meaningful conversation with you?
Do you feel like you are at the ‘fork in the road’ and don’t know what to do?
I often work with individuals and couples who are stuck and need help with making transitions and changes to their relationships. Often, we need to peel back the layers to understand the relationship dynamic and help you to navigate either how to make productive changes together or help you as an individual understand what may be some tough choices. Either way, my job is to help you explore, understand and support you in the journey to once again find the vibrancy in your life.
Sex therapy is a form of talk therapy where we focus on the individual’s and/or couples issues with sex and sexuality. It can be based on functional issues such as erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation, anorgasmia, low desire, as well as understanding a person’s sexuality or gender identity. With sex therapy we focus on and directly address the sexual issues rather than assuming they will improve if communication or other relationship issues improve. While I specialize in sex therapy, I am also skilled in a wide range of general therapy issues.
- Erectile issues
- Rapid ejaculation
- Delayed ejaculation
- Low sexual desire
- Difficulty or inability to achieve orgasm
- Sexual inhibition
- Sexual addiction or compulsive behaviors
- Alternative sexual expression
- Gender identity concerns and transition
- Gay, lesbian, and bisexual issues
- Relationship Transition
- Healing from sexual abuse
A healthy outlook and expression of sexuality can have an amazingly beneficial influence on one’s life. The issue is finding your own voice for your sexuality. I use many traditional psychotherapy techniques, such as Cognitive-Behavioral, Solution-Focused, Positive Psychology and Person-Centered Therapy as well as some non-traditional techniques like Clinical Hypnosis, Rapid Resolution Therapy and Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to help you to envision the best in you and your partner.
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