“Am I normal?”

As a therapist who specializes in sexuality, this is one of the most common questions I hear from my clients. What I tell them is that if you have experienced some form of sexual dysfunction, been divorced, had infidelity in your relationship, lacked intimacy with your partner, had little to no sex education, then congratulations, you are normal! In our society we grow up with a culture that is obsessed with sex yet is one of the most sex negative cultures on the planet. It is no wonder that most of us struggle with a part of our life that we are taught to believe “should” come naturally, yet without the proper tools is impossible.

I work with clients who have a wide variety of sexual expression from the mild to the wild. The most important issue is finding your own voice for your sexuality. Do you struggle with low sexual desire or inhibition and would like to be able to break out of your shell having greater joy with your partner? Do you find that monogamy and/or heterosexuality is too limiting for you and you need help explaining the concepts of an open relationship to your spouse? Do you wish you could bring your fantasies of BDSM, swinging, or other types of sexual expression into your real life? All of these things and more are possible; it is only your limiting belief system that keeps you stuck.

I use many traditional psychotherapy techniques, such as Cognitive-Behavioral, Solution-Focused, and Person-Centered Therapy as well as some non-traditional techniques like Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to help you to envision the best in you and your partner. Whether you are struggling with sexual functioning issues such as low libido, erectile issues, inability to orgasm, or sexuality issues such as compulsive porn use and masturbation, sexual orientation, of fetish issues I can help you to live a better life and have more joy in your relationships with yourself and others.

If you want to remain “normal” continue with your current course of action. However, if you would like to be abnormal (and happier than you ever imagined) contact me and let’s start the process of unleashing you from the chains of your limiting beliefs and letting your sexuality soar!